This week we are celebrating – An Anniversary and A Revelation. A year ago I was flipping through magazines in Barnes and Noble while Mermaid played at the train table. I found one left behind by another mom – Artful Blogging. I flipped through the beautiful pages and was inspired by all of these women. They told beautiful heart touching stories, had amazing photos, and I wanted to be one of them so very badly. I wanted to magically transform my chaotic life into one of tranquility and black and white photos. So I came up with the brilliant idea to start a blog of my own. I would talk about all the areas a housewife and mom deal with in a day. I was going to talk about great ways to clean the house, decorate the house, how to turn a mess into a beautiful yard, share recipes that would inspire others to cook them, all the great things I do with Mermaid, the fun things Hubby and I get up to, talk about the trips we take, the trips we plan to take, the ways I try to keep ahold of my sanity, the list was huge. So I came up with a catchy little title and a handful of hope. I already had a crafty blog where I talk about crochet, knitting, and sewing so how hard would it be to start one for the house too?
After a few weeks I found Facebook Blogging groups and the How To Blog sites. Then it was a whole different ball game. I had to create content that was focused on a target reader. I had to publish a certain number of posts a week. There needed to be consistency. Daily promotion was required. There were programs that would ‘handle’ my social media posts for me to sign up and pay for. I needed to join sites and go through hours and hours of surveys and applications in an attempt to get products that would pay me to talk about them. The blog went from a life transforming dream into a source of stress I hadn’t experienced since I was an Senior Executive Assistant to a Senior Vice President in charge of a $500M a year division of a huge corporation. Doesn’t that just sound stressful? I started avoiding working on anything that had to do with the blog. I actually took most of the summer off because I just didn’t want to deal with the stress of it all. There were no black and white photos anywhere, just stress. I have been considering shutting the whole thing down, and just keeping the crafty blog where I still have fun and the only stress I have is compiling a monthly list of Crochet and Knit A-longs that I love to list for people to find a reason to get crafty.
Then this weekend I found myself sitting in Barnes and Noble watching Mermaid play at the train table again. I was flipping through travel books trying to decide on a trip to Germany to see castles and eat sausages or to Italy to see ancient buildings and eat pasta. (Hubby finally saved up enough airline miles for the three of us to go to Europe this summer!) Hubby was with us and wandering around looking at the games, puzzles and things they have, when he comes over with a stack of magazines and hands them to me. In this stack were some of the ones I love to read – Breathe, Flow, Simply Crochet, and Artful Blogging. He hands them to me and tells me to go get a more comfortable chair in the café, he will sit and watch Mermaid play for a while. Have I ever told you how much I love that man?
So off I went to find a more comfortable chair and flip through some magazines by myself. When I got to the newest Artful Blogging I flipped through the pages and once again wished for a life filled with sunny windows and black and white photos. Then it hit me. Why do I have to try and make this site mainstream? Do you really need another stranger telling you what to do incase your toddler has a melt down in the middle of Target? Can’t I just have a site where I can talk about my real life, my home, and my family? You know what I am a 38 year old woman. I have served in the military. I put myself through college while working full time. Hubby and I dealt with infertility. I live with several chronic illnesses. Had the love of my life, lost him, then went back and got him again. I am a mother who gives 110% to her daughter. In the past I have picked a city out of a hat and moved to make a life there – twice. I am a grown ass woman and I can have a life of beautiful pictures and quiet moments if I damn well want them. All I have to do is work on it and not give up. Just like every other accomplishment in my life.
What to expect?
I am going to embrace being a terrible housewife but an awesome mother. There will be actual posts about our life, trips we are planning, things we are doing around the house, things I think you need in your life, posts about women I think are just Plucky Pollys – and some black and white photos!